But is this a positive development or something to be concerned about?

Is online dating making the world better and dating more effective, or is something important being lost or sacrificed as a result?

Signed, My Fiance’s In Jail " Dear My Fiance’s in Jail: First of all, you’re 37 years old. You need to have your own life separate from what your parents think. If you expect them to not judge him and to be supportive of your decision to marry him, YOU are the one with unrealistic expectations.

Dating Men Behind Bars Instead of Men In Bars: Eric Menendez, one of the Menendez brothers who is on death row, met his fiance as a pen pal who wrote him in jail.

In fact, many women write to men who are on death row -- either seeking them out themselves, or answering ads that prisoners put in newspapers or other public media outlets looking for companionship and more.

For socially weird or anxious or shy people, trying to meet a stranger in public is a nightmare, and even for someone charming and outgoing, it’s a grueling task that requires a lot of luck.

The alternative that often happens is meeting someone through friends, which can work, but it’s limiting yourself to single people your closest friends and family happen to know.

As for the current online dating options—they strike me as a good first crack at this by humanity, but the kind of thing we’ll significantly improve on to the point where the way it was done in 2014 will seem highly outdated in not too many years.

Now that the stigma has diminished, you know this industry is going to race ahead because there’s so much money to be made by whoever can be innovative.

However, your particular fiancé not only got arrested – he violated probation. How important was it to him not to violate probation? Is this behavior of getting arrested normal among his family? Is it because you don’t have the guts to say what you know that they will – which is, dump him and find someone better and more deserving of the grand prize that you are?

There are questions only you can know the answers to – and you may not want to hear them, but it’s imperative to your well being that you try to: Is this his first offense? Are you acting out by trying to marry someone that you know will upset your parents in a backwards way to get their attention?

My fiancé is currently in jail on a probation violation. I love him so much and still want to marry him when he gets out, however, I have to explain his situation to my parents because our wedding is going to have to be postponed.

I know they are not going to be happy or understanding.

You’re only 37– and while you may feel your biological clock ticking, making a bad decision and marrying and having children with someone who’s got a criminal record among other problems that usually comes with someone who can’t obey the law of their own volition, you’re going to get into deeper problems, and you’re going to involve innocent children in a situation that can be avoided.